Sunday, March 30, 2008

The Others......

Sumtimes it is better to leave people to make their preferences...their life...and wht they do with it is upto them...even if u knw tht person well or u think tht person isnt doing the right thing...sumthings r better left for them to find out for themselves...."limts" as i wud like to put it shudnt b crossed....as friends or partners there is always a thin line after which we wud b intruding into the other person's life which is also called their "personal life"....and advice... Oh Pleeeeeeeaaaaaaassssssseeeeeee !!! keep it to urself unless they ask for some.
If they really think they need your advice they wud b knocking on your door to ask wht u feel abt it...and if they dont...then understand your position in that case and how much right u have in talking about it. And before you give advice...always think of this one line "LOOK WHO IS TALKING"
If you cant stop urself frm bitching behind their back ...well go ahead...but when u r told how much position u hold in decisions they need to take....do understand.....tht u might b good at work with them......u might b good in the relation u r with them....u might b the greatest of friends...no doubt about tht.....but then...they dont want u to decide for them wht to do and wht not to do.... i mean essssssssssspecccccccccialllllllllyyyyyyyyy u. When u cant fit in their shoes and see sumthing tht they see in wht they r doing.....then y not jus keep quiet....instead of losing the little respect they have for you in the process of trying to give unwanted/unasked for advice. They do understand u care for them...but tht doesnt giv u a right to try and change their preferences....if they like wht they r doing it then let them go ahead..... If u didnt want advice about ur relationship....if u didnt want advice about ur changing lifestyle....if u didnt want advice of ur social behaviour.....then how can you be the one giving now? And paaaaleeeeeeeeeeese if the decision has u concerned in no way then y the hell r u the first in line to comment or give away free advice...? its not like u r living a perfect life tht u need to preach others about it....u like the way u live....they like the way they live.... you take ur decisions and they do like to take theirs'

Cud b crap..... stupid logic.....WHTEVER this is how life is...and shud be.....jus dont b "THE OTHERS" who have to have a say in every damn thing not concerning them !!!

5 comments:

विकास कुमार said...

hmmm...[just noding my head]

gurveen said...

what we do in life is not always good for us babes..and we don't realise it while we are doing it..so its nice if sometimes friends do advice..

atleast its happened with me..that i was taken out of something which i dint want by a frnd..

u may hate listenin to advice, but its only been given to u aftr loads of contemplation..nd its given so that a frnd may not later feel that he/she was scared to give an opinion..and its given with the fear that the frndhsip may be affected...but still its given coz the person thinks it wud be wrong not to speak..

dose who hav the courage to speak to u abt thngs u dont like are your best frnds babes..coz they care about u more than their own impression on u..

Ravali said...

well....if am pretty sure we rnt talkign abt the same ppl since u r calling them my best frnds...coz i cant dare call them tht since best frnds...for tht matter even frnds dont back bite...and mind u i dont mean bitching here (which we do mostly :P ) ..... and i have clearly given these rights to a few ppl..whose advice i dont mind...and if i havent given u tht liberty and already told u abt it....then one has to stop doing it....coz like i said its highly unappreciated :D
and again ...we rnt talking abt the same ppl :)

gurveen said...

hmm i guess then we r talkin abt diff ppl..who r u talkin about then?

Ravali said...

naaa....let tht person comment first...let me see if he/she recognizes tht i am talking abt him/her :P